The Narcissist is Haunted By Her Actions Part 2: Numerous comments have arisen about the use of the term “haunting”. When a person is haunted by an action the implication is that they are feeling remorse or their conscience is bothering them and so that term has created some confusion. Let me clarify. I am using the term haunting in a more literal way. A way in which the narc has totally divorced themselves from their actions, has NO emotional attachment to them, but the awareness of those actions still can't be escaped. No, the narc doesn't care about her previous life or those who were a part of it. Today being mother's day, let's start with what the most likely scenario is. I am thinking about that person wondering what she is doing, who she is with, how she is spending the day. I know what her mother's day tradition is so I still care and try to think about how she feels today. I try to project those feelings of nostalgia about our relationship onto the narcissist, but that is a mistake. What is really going on in the narc's mind? Is she having pleasant thoughts of last year and mourning the fact that she and I are no longer together? Unlikely. Here is the most likely scenario. The highlight of the narc's day, the only thing that really matters to her is NOT her daughter, it is that “Happy Mother's Day” greeting from her new boyfriend. The semi long distance relationship with the occasional hookup. That message will be secret,, maybe a direct message on a secret Instagram account, maybe a secret email or maybe she has devised a way of having a secret phone. Who knows, but that message is all she thinks about. Oh, I didn't tell you that relationship is a secret from everyone. So do you think that I have any illusions as to her thinking about me. No, she is putting on the act of devoted mother caring only for her daughter while putting all of her real attention, her mental presence on her secret soul mate. Now let's get back to the haunting metaphor. To do that we need to go back in time. The narc has decided that she is going to have her new relationship and discard her present partner. Her mind is made up and now it's just a matter of finding a way of disposing of an inconvenient person in her life. All the while she continues love bombing to make sure her present partner is totally unaware of her secret plans. So the plans are laid and as described in previous videos, things go wrong and she is unable to escape the damage as she blows up the relationship. Nonetheless, she simply makes use of the new unexpected turn of events and lies to her partner, viciously attacks him and threatens him with retribution from members of her family and a law suit that will take everything he owns. Then leaves the victim with his personal and work life literally torn to shreds and institutes NO CONTACT. It is over for her, she is a bit worse for wear but she has made sure that her previous partner is suffering and destroyed. So now she can enjoy her new relationship in peace. No, the narc doesn't care if her previous partner loses everything or commits suicide. That suicide would actually be a gift for that narc. It would provide the pleasure of knowing that her problem was solved. She would have no further interference from her previous partner again and be totally free to enjoy her new relationship. Also, her previous partner, the evil person (who never did anything to intentionally hurt her, by the way), got what he deserved. It would give great satisfaction to know that person died since they had the audacity to actually hold the narc accountable for her actions. They had the audacity to actually expect loyalty, forgiveness, and an honoring of the commitment she made. Didn't that previous partner understand that once the narc get's bored or doesn't have every demand met to the letter that the previous partner has to leave and stay away? Especially if he is spoiling the new relationship and all of her new future plans (her new life's purpose and her new soul mate) she has put so much effort in to construct. It took her months of decision making to decide what type of man she wanted, what type of work and charities she would be involved in. She finally found that man, realized that she was meant for a larger cause than just working in a local business and was well on the way to achieving her goals and then this old useless partner of hers has the notion that he is important and deserves attention and respect? No way, that useless ex needs to leave and leave immediately and the narc never wants to hear from him again. So yes, if he kills himself all the better. If it takes some nudging, well the new weasel will be happy to team up and drive that old partner right over the edge. Suicide? Too bad for the previous partner. For the narc and the high octane new narcissist weasel partner it's a job well done. What an accomplishment. That sure is a rock solid foundation to build a relationship on. So now you can understand how valuable that “Happy Mother's Day” is for the narc partner who found another narc weasel as her soul mate. There are no illusions that the narc is thinking tender thoughts about her past 3 ½ years of life with her previous soul mate and previous life's purpose. Back to the haunting, so let's give an illustration. You have just cleaned up a dirty garage and filled a bag full of junk and waste that you no longer want. It is garbage, dirty, filthy garbage. You hold your nose, throw that bag in the garbage can, then walk away. You put that garbage can on the curb and never think about that garbage again, you just want it gone. You don't care what happens to the garbage. You don't want to know what land fill it is taken to or if it is recycled or if it ends up in the ocean or in a whale's stomach or even on the next door neighbor's lawn. Not your responsibility, not your problem, you did your duty by placing the garbage on the curb. End of story. That is how the narc thinks of a relationship she no longer wants. So no, there is absolutely no remorse or guilt or nostalgia. There are no tender thoughts about her past. There is no second guessing about if she did wrong to her previous partner. She did what had to be done to dispose of that nasty garbage. So what if that garbage was another human being. She did her duty, disposed of the garbage, placed it on the curb. Not her problem. So what about the haunting? Well that narc did some very evil things, some incredibly treacherous things to that partner who never did anything but love her up until the last day and even far beyond that. She ruined another person's life, destroyed that person emotionally, destroyed his business and in some cases that narc may have driven someone to suicide. Not her problem. Keep in mind this narc has done this before, ruined other people's lives, nearly broke up a new family with a child, destroyed multiple other people who became stalkers when she decided they were no longer useful. She did her duty, disposed of the garbage every single time. Not her problem. After all she had such a terrible childhood. No one suffered the terrible life that she had to endure growing up. So it is all justified. Nice and simple. The narc doesn't care, the narc feels no remorse, the narc has no guilt. The narc simply doesn't care what happened to any of her victims. There is only one problem. The narc knows right from wrong and the narc knows she did wrong to those people, so no matter how many times she convinces herself she did her duty and disposed of the garbage, no matter how may times she denies her past and recreates herself and indulges in a new flight of fancy with a new “lifetime” partner, no matter how many times she justifies her actions by referring to her broken childhood, she cannot escape the knowledge that she did the wrong thing. So what about that garbage that she wasn't concerned about, that she didn't care what happened to? Well the remains of her victims were buried and all of those terrible, devious, treacherous acts were buried along with the victims. Just like ghosts those activities may not be visible to anyone but they are present and the narc knows they are present. The narc denies everything, but unless she literally loses her mind, the amount of effort to suppress that knowledge of her evil becomes greater and greater. The ghosts or memories of her past are there whether she denies them or not. The ghosts are real even if the narc pretends they aren't there and even if no one else can see them. Those ghosts, and there are more and more of them as the narc's life unfolds, follow the narc wherever she goes and they may well be her only companions in the eternal torment that awaits an unrepentant evildoer. Yes, the narc won't have anyone to complain to about her evil partner or her terrible childhood in Hell. She will be totally isolated, no contact with another living soul. But those ghosts will be there with her and she will no longer be able to ignore them in Hell as she goes deeper and deeper into her sinful unrepentance and slowly deteriorates into a subhuman beast that will truly no longer have the capacity to be a human being. So the narc isn't concerned about the afterlife? Thinks heaven boring? Oh, you say they are an atheist? Everyone intuitively knows there is a God, a being greater than themselves, and no one knows what “lies beyond the veil” of death. So, who do you think the narc is kidding to be so sure that they don't care or contemplate their afterlife? The narc may be lying to themselves and in that case it will be one of the rare occasions that that lie will damage the narc and the narc alone. Thank you for watching. Your comments are welcomed.

The Narcissist is Always Haunted by His Actions: The covert narcissist is a seemingly harmless human being. The narc definitely sees himself as a person who really doesn't want to hurt anyone, even though they do. The narc sees themselves as virtuous. Over the course of their lives the narc may actually seperate being virtuous from being good, that is how warped the narc's logic becomes as they go deeper and deeper into their psychosis. The narc may intuitively know that “they are not going to a good place” which seems to indicate they know they have done bad things and one day need to be accountable, but then why does the narc continue to be evil? Why doesn't the narc try to turn things around? Why is it that whatever the narc touches, whoever he has any sort of relationship with ends up severely damaged? Is the narc simply a misunderstood, troubled person that has the worst luck? It all boils down to the fact that the narc lives in his own world, a world in which he is the arbiter of right and wrong. When the narc bumps into other people those people either comply and become a part of the narc's world, a world where he is king and makes all of the rules or they become “bad” people who don't agree with the narc's opinion that they need to be vassals in his kingdom. So the narc suffers cognitive dissonance when he encounters people who actually have the notion they are the equals of the narc and expect the narc to share the world with them and respect them as equals. When the narc encounters these independent minded souls who refuse to get with the narcs program, he feels totally justified, even virtuous to harm these people in any way he deems necessary. But then there is always that nagging feeling the narc has. Maybe he isn't the center of the world, maybe other people do deserve to have rights equal to his own. Maybe there is a God that the narc actually has to submit to and bow down to. So, occasionally the narc does get anxious about being wrong, but then the narc thinks over the course of his life and if he really thought of himself as a mere mortal, someone no better or worse than anyone else, well then he would have to reevaluate his past and that would be devastating. You see the narc has a long list of people that have been severely damaged over the course of his life. Siblings he let down and just abandoned to a point where they are dead to him. Parents who had to suffer terribly trying to accommodate the narc. One broken relationship after another and numerous “stalkers” that couldn't understand why they just needed to move on at the drop of a hat and leave the narc alone when the narc found a new toy (partner) to play with. After all the narc had no problems moving on. Then there are the unexplained deaths of some of those that were close to the narc. Maybe just coincidence. Then of course there is the duplicity, the treachery, the lying, the gaslighting, but those actions were not done with malice. Those actions weren't evil. They were good, they were justified. The narc simply either did these things to people because those evil people deserved it or he needed to do those things to make sure those people stayed in line and kept with the program. Those people needed to be aware that the narc was king and in control. Those people needed to submit to the narc without question and the narc needed to keep them in line. So the deception and gaslighting was necessary to make sure they stayed off balance and the narc could remain the undisputed king. Those people were simply being prevented from committing the cardinal sin and challenging the narc's superiority and dominance. But still there is always that occasional nagging thought at night when the narc considers the awful unimaginable possibility that he isn't the center of the world , he isn't king. But that would mean that the narc was not justified in gaslighting, lying to others and the deceit and treachery was not justified and may truly be evil. The narc then diverts and deflects those thoughts of possible culpability by quickly going back to his mental surreal fantasy world and all is back to normal. Normal for the narc that is. The rest of the world considers the narc's normal world a nightmare, and unfortunately for the narc whether he likes it or not, whether he acknowledges it or not, he is living in a world that must be shared by others and his so called normal is decidedly not normal or logical or cohesive. So the narc has to continually deny the opinion of others around him and get himself back by stopping and banishing those thoughts of not being king. The narc has an enormous debt to pay if he is incorrect about himself being the center of the world. The narc probably never consciously thinks of themselves as the center of the world , they just subconsciously assume it without even realizing it. The covert narcissist is the worst of the bunch, because not only does the shy, restrained covert narc fool everyone he comes in contact with, he also fools himself. After all the covert narc is mild mannered, they don't dress in flashy clothes or drive the hottest car. They aren't overtly boastful. Their cheating and lying is done while appearing totally conservative. Their flirting, which is incredible and obvious and totally abnormal to an outside observer, is considered just talking to the narc. So what if that innocent talk inadvertently results in a physical encounter. The narc never meant that to happen. The narc engages in adultery with absolutely no remorse or conscience, again because the narc feels totally justified in doing it. The excuses the narc makes for cheating are long, here are just a few: their partner is a selfish lover, their partner has cheated on the narc, the partner and the narc aren't in a physical relationship and the narc feels the need for intimacy not being given to him by his partner, the narc has finally found their soul mate and has never felt understood before meeting the person they are cheating with, the partner is abusing the narc, the narc is about to get a divorce, but is only in the relationship until the children are old enough, but they just can't pass up this relationship with their soulmate . But then there is always that nagging feeling that maybe it isn't right to cheat and lie, especially when the husbands and boyfriends of the women they seduce or deceive into a relationship are angry at the narc. In this case the narc once again bumps into the real world and once again needs to indulge in a large dose of denial and rationalization. According to the narc's logic, if those husbands or boyfriends were really meeting their partner's needs the narc would have never had a chance. The narc was simply helping the women he stole from their partners have some happiness that was absent in their preexisting relationship. The narc was providing comfort to those who needed it. But again, there is always that doubt that the narc can never fully escape. The doubt that maybe they aren't the center of the world. The doubt that maybe stealing that relationship was not justified, not the right thing to do. Maybe the “comfort” that the narc provided to the women he seduced actually destroyed the lives of both the woman , her partner and their family. So the narc spends his life whistling in the dark, but he is always haunted by a history of destruction he can never escape, except by living deep in his warped, psychotic world. So what about that saying “I'm not going to a good place”? Is that an admission of being evil? Is it a way of rationalizing to himself “Well, I am already going to a bad place, so I might as well do whatever I please in this life, since my outcome is already assured”. Is it just a license to indulge in destruction of those around him? Is there some warped thrill the narc gets from being evil? Is this saying a warning to his or her victims, or is it just something the narc says to gaslight the universe and he doesn't believe it? The narc must be aware that no one can deceive God. Here is the sad reality, whether the narc believes it or not. There is value in turning his life around. There is a good possibility that the more damage the narc does in this world, the greater his suffering in the “not good place” he is going to. Talking to a narc about personal responsibility, a world where others are his equals is like a wooden stake going through his warped psychotic self-image. Talking about Jesus and salvation and his need to submit his will to God and bow his knee to Jesus is literally no different than the depiction of a cross causing a vampire to disintegrate. The Truth (Jesus) would literally vaporize the narc's fantasy world that consists of nothing but lies, duplicity, treachery, deception, and all other sorts of evil. So yes, the narc is always looking over his shoulder and always having to fight the real world since his actions are evil if judged in the real world and his world itself will totally vaporize if exposed to the sunlight of reality. So you have to wonder if the inspiration for the myth of vampires wasn't inspired by the narcissist. Maybe the vampire is just a metaphor to show people the true nature of these evil narcopathic beasts. They suck the lifeblood out of their victims and hold an unnatural spell on them and they could never survive in the real world of truth and in the sunshine. Thank you for watching. 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The Narc as Predatory Relationship Thief: Narcissist Weasel Syndrome: Up to this point I have dealt with the victims of narc abuse that were in an actual relationship with that narcissist. There is a whole group of narc victims that are the indirect victims of a narcissist. These are the people who have a relationship and have their partner in essence stolen by a narcissist. The narc is an interloper weasel in this scenario, and the victim may never have actual contact with the narc until the relationship is stolen. But some victims do get to “have contact” with the low life narc and the attitude of the narc in these situations is quite stunning. This type of narcissist is the lowest of the low, he far outstrips the average covert narcissist who at least knows their victim and has presumably at least given something of themselves to the victim before the pain they cause. The predatory narc is a different animal altogether, they are most definitely a weasel, but that is probably being unfair to actual weasels, who simply are animals doing what their instincts dictate. The human narc as weasel is doing what his vile lusts dictate, but you could never consider weasel like behavior normal for a human being. So let's give an illustration to explain the predatory narc. The predatory narc is always on the lookout for a fresh relationship and they are not bound by a sense of honor. If the narc sees a person that they might like as a partner, the fact that that person is married or is a parent makes very little difference to the narc. The narc wants what the narc wants. Morality or what is right is no issue for the narc, because the narc's needs are the only thing that matters or counts to a narcissist. In an effort to expose these beasts, I have broken their vile activity into 10 phases. Phase 1 So the narc sees a target, again it doesn't matter if they are married or have children or if they have a good stable relationship, and then begins to size up that person. The predatory covert narc will always appear as a very humble self-effacing meek individual to the target. This is part of how the narc gets what he wants, by appearing harmless and if it aids in entrapping the target, the narc will seem to an extent helpless or in need of help. That “help” will be more than welcomed when given by the target. That narc will portray themselves as a paragon of virtue, possibly even throwing in some Bible verses and feigning religiosity. There will be a special cocktail of new fake persona custom made for the intended target, which the narc hopes to make a victim. Phase 2 The narc will get to know that target and have that target open up to them, while the narc carefully takes mental notes and refines their fake persona. Phase 3 Of course the topic of “how things are going with the partner” will eventually come up and the narc will slowly get their foot in the door and make subtle statements to get as much personal information as possible on the target's relationship. Phase 4 The narc now having a good idea of the target's needs and desires and a pretty good idea of the weaknesses in the target's relationship begins to refine their fake persona to an even higher level, now beginning to feign all of the attributes that are missing in the target's partner. Phase 5 The narc has now befriended the target and found out both the vulnerabilities of the target, her partner, and the vulnerabilities of the target's relationship and begins to enable the target to use themselves as a sounding board to voice complaints about their partner. Phase 6 The narc then slowly begins amplifying those faults in the target's partner and the weaknesses in the relationship and get's the target to begin questioning if their existing relationship is really as good as they thought it was, and in fact the target begins thinking, “I have a friend (the predatory weasel narc) that really “get's me” and I feel so much more understood when I am around that person. The narc has now created the perfect custom made persona and planted the idea in the target's mind that they are the target's soul mate. The narc is very watchful and aware when phase 6 has taken full completion, in fact he is looking for this. Phase 7 The narc then backs off a little bit and tells the victim that it really isn't any of his business the target should work it out with her partner. After all they are married and share children with that person, even if that person isn't perfect. The narc has played the target like a fiddle and just sits back and waits. The target now can't do without the advice and friendship of the noble virtuous narc and starts thinking that maybe she needs to be with the narc, not her partner. Phase 8 is the culmination of the weasel's plans, when there begins to be a solid emotional relationship built with the target, and the target's loyalties are slowly but surely methodically completely removed from the target's partner over to the narc. The narc is careful to do this very subtly. Phase 9 is when the narc has now got a physical and deep emotional relationship with the target and is well on the way to getting the previous partner out of the picture. So let's pause here, and focus on the target's partner, the INDIRECT victim of the narc. The target's partner may or may not be a perfect person and as with all people there is always room for improvement, but that partner has made a firm, lifetime commitment to the target. The target who is gradually having her loyalty stolen by the narc weasel gradually becomes more distant and unavailable emotionally to her preexisting partner and that partner , if they love the target, is aware of what is going on and tries to get to the bottom of things and see what is wrong, but really doesn't suspect any danger to the relationship. The target is a sensitive person and her preexisting partner makes his own notes and endeavors to repair what is wrong with the relationship slowly and carefully. The preexisting partner has absolutely no clue that there is a wolf (actually weasel) at the door of their relationship. So here is the sad thing, because the target's partner trusts the target implicitly, he is never even aware of the extent of the problem in the relationship until the target acts in such a bizarre manner that he gets suspicious. Of course, at this point the target has already switched her loyalty over to the predatory weasel narc and is unreachable by the preexisting partner. The point where the target's partner is now angry and agitated and totally confused as to what is going on is where we will get back to the predatory narc weasel. This acting up of the preexisting partner is what the predatory narc weasel has waited for and the narc now institutes Phase 10, formally taking the relationship away from the preexisting partner. Of course now the preexisting partner is introduced to the narc, a person he never suspected existed. The narc weasel will give an appearance of being a knight in shining armor, saving the poor target from that crazy and angry preexisting partner. After all the target now has a relationship with the narc. The narc never got angry at her. The narc was patient and supportive, not like that crazy unstable previous partner of hers. Now, you might think that the narc weasel would have a bit of pause. After all he just won his trophy and stole a relationship right from under the nose of the unwitting preexisting partner. Does the narc feel remorse, guilt, or shame for his actions? Well he's a narc, we know the answer: Of course not. But here is where things go from the narc being a bad person to being a hideous creature literally dripping wet with raw sewage. The preexisting partner is of course now going to try to fight for the relationship, so what does the narc weasel do? The narc weasel starts gloating to the preexisting now ex partner about having taken away the target, and sadly, the target is now joining in with that narc weasel. The narc weasel is a powerful, real man not like the weak preexisting partner. Then the narc weasel decides to take over defense of the target and tells the target to go no contact with her ex partner. No communication whatsoever. Let's go back to the ex partner of the target. Well, he was blindsided and clueless, but he begins to look back on the past few months and reinterprets a lot of the statements and actions of his ex partner, the target of the narc weasel and starts realizing the effects that the narc weasel had on destabilizing the relationship. Unfortunately, for him, it is too late. His partner is firmly in the arms of the narc weasel predator. Now here is where the story gets interesting. The narc weasel always overestimates himself and simply believes that the previous partner of the target will sit still and take his abuse. So the narc starts making death threats against the previous partner on Instagram. Of course they are just benign posts- NOT, just general statements- SURE. Well unfortunately for the weasel, he grossly underestimated the target's previous partner. That ex partner gave the narc plenty of warnings to back off and shut up. The narc weasel won his prize, so stop with the gloating. Of course the weasel wouldn't stop, so it was time for him to come face to face with the previous partner of the narc. Meet man to man. The narc's partner would come unarmed and only wanting to talk, but the narc weasel would have to back up all of his threats. So what ended up happening? Well The ex partner first calls the narc weasel and has a little talk with him. The narc weasel then makes the threat that I am going to find you. Will unfortunately for the weasel, he bit off more than he could chew. The ex partner said words to the effect: Maybe I an going to find you first. Well the weasel spoke a few expletives and hung up. Well about 4 hours later the narc's ex partner gets a call from the police informing him he shouldn't go anywhere near the weasel or call the weasel again. Well that call was the greatest victory for the person who had just had his woman stolen from him and then had vicious threats made by the weasel. That weasel backed down and showed himself to be the true coward that he was. That was the turning point for the ex partner of the target. By the way, the target was also narcissistic and became a full blown narc under the weasel's tutelage. That was the day the ex partner began to get himself back, a shred of his dignity a piece of himself. The ex partner would never be afraid of anything a human could do to him again. There was only a fear of God. Please be aware that this story is partly fictional, since the ex partner will never really know what went on between the narc weasel and his ex partner. The part of how a narc seduces a victim was witnessed first hand observing a narc plying his trade on a coworker, as well as other actual accounts of the activities of slimy narcs, so it was incorporated to fill in the part the ex partner will never know about. Oh yes, my narc partner has a very interesting past and that information came to me miraculously and by chance. So I now know much about her, but I can't verify those things. I can only speak of what I know, and that I will do in such a way never to hurt or damage my narc ex partner. Despite everything, I still care and it is my sincerest hope that she one day views these videos and sees herself for who she is and what she is doing to those around her. Thank you for watching. Your comments are welcomed. Peace be with you.

The Narcissist Lives in A Surreal World of His Own Making With Devastating Results to the Real World The statement that a narcissist is the center of their own world is spot on accurate. The narc is King or Queen and Creator in this world of theirs and the rest of us in the real world are merely players in HER world. The narcissist's world is the only world they know and the only world that counts to them. So the narcissist decides the rules in this world and answers only to its Queen, the narc themselves. How convenient, since every human being on this earth is kind and forgiving to themselves. So what is the point? Well this attitude causes REAL damage to the rest of us willing to live in the REAL WORLD, a world we have to share with others, a world were we aren't King, a world were we are accountable for our actions, a world were we have to compromise to get along. To illustrate this point let's indulge in a metaphor. Let's give an example of a person who takes a water pistol and spray paints that water pistol, then goes into a bank and brandishes that pistol. The people in that bank are terrorized and the narc decides to teach that selfish teller a lesson, making her strip to her underwear. The 60 year old “selfish and terrible” loan officer who wouldn't give her a loan is terrorized to the point that they have a heart attack. The narc looks on and refuses to allow help to be called. Another teller is so badly threatened she nearly has a seizure. The narc then walks out of that bank not having taken a single penny. So let's take a look at the aftermath here in this metaphorical example. The “arrogant”, according to the narc, bank teller that had to strip to her underwear was so humiliated that she couldn't return to work and suffered such anxiety that she took years to recover and get back to normal. The loan officer, well he didn't get a chance to give away his daughter at the wedding. The whole family was devastated and the loan officer's widow was so distraught she had to sell the house and go into assisted living. Twenty years of that poor woman's life was robbed from her. These could have been quality years with her husband, her soul mate. Instead they were spent isolated and her mental and physical health deteriorated. Those grandchildren never got to meet and gain wisdom from a man that they would have known as Pop Pop. What about the last teller? Well, she went back to work, but after a few months of waiting for the next person to walk in with a gun, and suffering incredible anxiety attacks, she had to get out of the bank. In fact she would never again be able to work in a position that had direct contact with the public. What incredible power that narc had. What an accomplishment, and all with a mere water pistol. So, what about the narc? Did they feel any remorse? Of course not. Those people in the bank needed to be taught a lesson. The narc did the world a favor. After all how could they not understand the importance of that narcissist. How could they commit the cardinal sin of just treating her like some average person off the street. The narc did no wrong. After all that was a water pistol and they were in no danger whatsoever. She even painted the water pistol dark brown, not black. It should have been obvious that that wasn't a real gun. She never stole a penny of money, no harm was done at all. If these people were so stupid as to not see that gun was a water pistol painted dark brown, it isn't the narc's fault what happened to them. They were too trusting, not wise enough to the world. Too naive, because they had a soft childhood a life of ease and comfort growing up. Not like the narc who had to learn early about the harsh reality of life. Therefore it isn't the narc's fault if they over reacted to something. There was no threat to these people. The narc did nothing wrong and no one will ever convince the narc otherwise. It isn't the narc's fault. To add to all of this the narcissist harbors uncontrollable rage, anger, and resentment at both of those tellers and the loan officer. She will never be able to forgive them for what they did to her. Of course, if the authorities ever investigate and question her, she will deny the whole event ever happened. She was simply at the bank to make a deposit, but had to leave before she could make that deposit. Those people at the bank are liars and they have an overactive imagination. Those people who work at the bank are crazy they need mental help. This is the mentality of the narcissist and this is why they will never understand the devastating effects of their behavior or ever take responsibility. They automatically assume no one ever had it harder than them. They assume that anyone who doesn't see them as special is a bad ignorant person that deserves to be punished. How dare anyone the narc comes in contact with expect to be treated as an equal. Such insurrection would never be allowed. The narc reigns supreme in their own world and will never give up control. Their sole purpose in the love bombing or idealization phase was to get you to willingly enter their world. You willingly entered that world and now you have the audacity to actually want to have rights in the narc's world? You actually think the narc will leave that world of their own creation and share existence in the real world as a mere mortal, an equal to others? You never understood the narc, or you would have never expected the narc to consider you an equal. If you understood the narc, you would have never insisted on having any rights of your own choosing. After all, the narc gave you plenty of rights and plenty of freedom, you just never realized those rights and freedoms were granted to you by the narc. Your assumption that you were entitled to rights and entitled to choose and fight for the rights you decided were important to you was an act of supreme arrogance and pride, according to the narc. That attitude alone justified all that the narc did to you, including your banishment. Thank you for watching, your comments are always welcomed. Peace be with you.

The Scourge of Societal Degradation: The Enemy Within: Locating The Source of The Problem: A War for the Heart and the Mind- Hijacking Culture: If you ask a person what it is in this world that they value above all other things, you will usually get a response of their family. The average parent would automatically think of their children. Then their grandchildren, then their extended family. Beyond family there is your cultural heritage, and beyond that there is the community that you live in. Lastly there is a sense of a national identity. These are the things of lasting value that have been carefully handed to you from previous generations and are the things you will pay forward to the next generation. These are the important things that people are willing to die for. These ideals are so valuable that wars are fought to protect them. The present society we live in in America was bought with the blood of those who died in the Revolutionary War and all subsequent generations paid these American freedoms and ideals forward to the next generation. The ideals of acceptable codes of conduct are individualized for each family, but also extend to the aggregate of people in a society. How groups of people in a society should behave. These standards evolve and change over time and the hope is that they are continually improved upon. You could cite civil rights for all citizens as an example. For thousands of years as economic, political, environmental, and technological changes occurred in a society, these standards were modified and changed to take into account new conditions. This was an organic, thoughtful evolution of an existing society. These changes were made only as an adaptation, the best and most efficient way of incorporating changes so that society could grow and prosper. So what happens if these changes are not made with a simple agenda of adapting to new economic or technological changes? What happens if a group of people has a different agenda? What happens if the ideals that every generation was willing to die for are attacked from within and at a very slow and imperceptible pace? The general population adapts to these ARTIFICIAL changes that are not beneficial to the society in the same way that the population adapted to the BENEFICIAL organic changes. Especially if the population is told that these artificial, corrosive changes are GOOD and that anyone who opposes these changes is BAD. So what is the point? The assumption that all change is good and more modern is just that, an assumption. The problem is that everyone has been programmed to believe this assumption is not an assumption, but an incontrovertible fact. Therefore, the public believes without question that the change in standards or codes of conduct for a society are automatically an improvement, made for the benefit of future generations. But what if there is an agenda? What if these changes are not a response to finding a solution to adapt to technological or environmental or economic changes? What if there is an agenda not to build up and improve a society, but rather to destroy it? That is known as having an enemy within. Here is what happens when an external enemy decides to attack a society. First the attacker is identified and called out as being wrong and evil. Then the society unites, comes together against this common enemy. People's notions of patriotism kick in and there is a re-emphasis and celebration of all that is good about an individual society. A common enemy gives a sense of unity and community. Those of us old enough need just remember the 9/11 attacks. All Americans were brothers and sisters and we all united against a new common enemy. So what if a group of people understands what is most important and valuable and chooses a roundabout way to take that away right under a society's nose? Well if it is done right, no one will notice, but when people do notice the internal enemy simply retreats and restrategizes. Since no one ever recognized these people as an enemy, they are free to stay in society and regroup. The planning never stops and the enemy will never rest until their ultimate goal is achieved. So, you may ask, who is this “group” of people you are referring to? In one word, they are the GLOBALISTS. These people come from all origins, although many of them can be considered puppets of a shadow group that no one even knows about. Their goal? To dissolve all national boundaries, dissolve all sense of societal identity and ultimately blend all of the people on earth into a homogeneous group. So, what is needed to fight these people? First people in a society need to wake up to the presence of globalists. Then people have to regain a sense of solidarity and understand that the incitement of unnecessary racial, class,cultural, and gender disputes is a way of dividing and conquering the population. Second we will not get into the racial or ethnic identity of the globalists, because in all likelihood these people are of many backgrounds. The people who are awake are also of all backgrounds. So what is the point of all of this. Each race and ethnicity has a right to exist. Each individual culture has a right to exist. Our Creator literally separated people into various groups. He was dead set against a one world society with one tongue and one culture. See the story of the tower of Babel. So the Individual people and cultures and races of the world have to stop allowing the people behind the curtain to dictate what they should think and how they should think. If Americans want to preserve their culture, this is NOT an act of hate, it is an act of love. An act of appreciating all of the efforts and suffering of previous generations and an act of love to preserve that culture for future generations. This doesn't at all mean that other cultures are not appreciated, but it is simply doing what all people do when confronted with a common enemy. “Circling the wagons” and fighting for a common cause, reaffirming and remembering all that is good about a society. We should consider other cultures and people of all races brothers. They have their sovereignty and we simply want to have ours. There is no racism or sense of superiority involved with this and in America, we have a multiracial society. The problem is not multiracialism, the problem is multiculturalism, which can only serve to erode an existing culture. But this subject is radioactive and people just refuse to acknowledge or think about it. You are doing new additions to a society no favor by enabling them not to assimilate, and you are doing a society no favors by Balkanizing it. You are just sewing the seed for future discord amongst citizens who consider themselves different from each other. So let's be clear about what is going on in our present world. Globalists have gradually and insidiously gained more and more control of every aspect of society and have gradually chipped away at the moral standards of the world's communities. How have they done this? By using the tools of media. It doesn't matter what media we are talking about, they are all in lockstep. This includes Movies, Television, News Outlets, and Newspapers. They all read from the same script and no variations or independent thinking are allowed, with some minor exceptions. The small group of Television networks, Television programs, Radio talk show programs, and Movies that are allowed to go off of the official narrative (for example Fox News and Various Radio Talk Shows) are put under heavy constraints. As an example, any one of the TV or radio hosts knows full well that one misplaced word or statement taken out of context can result in their dismissal. So these “opposing” voices to the mainstream also serve a purpose for the globalists, namely to give the illusion of freedom of speech and thought, the illusion of allowing people to speak their minds. The internet has been the one area that has been free of the stringent control of the globalist, but this is just one of the many setbacks that they have had over the decades and you can be sure that just as in past eras, it is only a matter of time until the truth is once again silenced. This silencing will always have the appearance of acting on the behalf of the public, and as most people are totally oblivious to what is being done to them the masses will be all to happy to agree as their freedoms are torn from them with their own consent. The enemy within has achieved what a thousand armies and all the fire power in the world couldn't achieve, without firing a single shot. Thank you for watching, your comments are welcomed.

The Narcissist Never Plays an Honest Hand: Comments have arisen on this channel about no contact and the implication was made that if the victim enforces no contact against the narcissist isn't the victim being hardhearted? That poses an interesting question, especially if the victim is the one that was discarded, and this is a valid question that deserves an answer. So, should the narcissist be given a second chance? Almost everyone deserves a second chance don't they? The answer is No if that person tried to kill you, and shows no sign of having learned anything since the event, but that is an extreme example. Most of the time yes, everyone deserves a second chance and the real issue here is one of trust. Even if given a second chance the victim would be fool hearty to let down their guard if the narcissist wants to resume a relationship. So, here is the problem, the narcissist never plays an honest hand. Would you play another game of poker with someone who took away your life savings in your last Poker game then was found to be cheating? How then do you approach someone in this scenario? You have three options: play the game and make sure you don't put too much at stake, have someone closely monitor the other player, or YOU, the victim decide that Poker will no longer be played. You decide on the game to be played and you make the rules and you closely monitor your opponent for cheating. If there is cheating a penalty will need to be established. If your partner refuses to play on an even playing field, you have done your duty and given them the second chance at a relationship, not a second chance to take advantage of you and destroy all that you have rebuilt. Here is my real life experience. I was free of the narc and had taken them off of my phone contacts long ago, when a question came up in the comments section asking if a victim going no contact with the narc is hardhearted which it definitely is not, since the victim has every right to get away from the abuse. My response was also that I would give the narc a second chance if they asked for it, and that I would try to make things work. I made an Instagram post that I thought the narc might see stating that I was willing to communicate with her if she wanted to resolve our issues. Not one week later I get a message on Instagram that I have a contact with a new IG account with the name “spam account “x”, name withheld”, no posts, over 300 followers, new account. I didn't really care. Ignored it. 1 week later my Instagram page tells me “your friend “y”, account name withheld, is on Instagram”. I now have another contact that is on Instagram. Well there were some dark posts on that site which gave me cause for concern, so I actually commented on the post out of concern. Then, not 6 hours later, I realized I was once again being set up for another round of deception, screen shotted my comment, deleted it, and blocked and hid all of these new accounts from my Instagram page. Once again the narc was going to engage me in a game where the narc made all of the rules. 2 days later I unblocked the account and made a post saying you have my number you are free to text me if you want to contact me. I for one will not be looking up those accounts again. Then the doubt sets in and you start beating yourself up thinking you just blew an opportunity at communicating with your previous partner and lost the opportunity to resolve some of the issues that are still up in the air. Once again you're back in the depths of depression and it's like day 2 post discard. You lose all sense and value of yourself again, but luckily after some much needed sleep and reflection it dawns on you, if that narc really cared they would come at you in a straightforward way. I clearly stated to her she was welcomed to contact me, and of course I meant as herself. Instead I am supposed to communicate with some dark anime character. A woman of nearly 50 years of age should be beyond that. So like someone who has overcome a bad infection, you have some immunity from being reinfected and this is what I observed. You have just rebuilt yourself into a functional human being with greater and greater periods of joy in your life and you are optimistic about your future and feeling pretty good about yourself. Then this setback and something inside of you fights back. You realize that you are a person with beliefs and with standards, a person with internal sovereignty that has value. You realize there is nothing wrong with you. These strong reactions and reaffirmations of yourself are your psyche's natural defense against the impulse you have to beat yourself up and question yourself for not having been good enough for the narc or having ideas that didn't align with that of the narcissist. It is like an immune system and as rapidly as this reinfection comes it resolves itself. You have learned and you have learned on a subconscious level. Then to complete the cure you reemphasize and recall all of the terribly abusive behavior the narc inflicted and again think of her as an evil beast. This terrible metaphor is also protective since it very accurately depicts the danger the narc poses to you. This is literally a battle for your heart, soul, and mind and at one point it was a battle for your very life, so I am very sorry, but I have no regrets calling these people evil beasts. My death or misfortune or financial ruin would give the narc the greatest pleasure. I can not go into the details, but because of the narc's gaslighting, triangulation, and devaluation, I was at the verge of making a huge mistake that the narc knew about. Metaphorically, I was about to drive off a cliff financially and personally and the narc knew this and just watched and waited. They actually went out of their way to get me to make this mistake. Luckily, I came to my senses and I am now better off than I could have ever imagined. No thanks to the narc. So, to get back to reconciliation, if that were ever to happen, which is highly unlikely. Remember the poker analogy and the fact that the narc never plays an honest hand. Keep on reminding yourself of that. Only verifiable actions should ever dissuade you of that notion. First and foremost the victim will have to be the one making the rules in the relationship and the victim had better have a strong sense of who they are and keep their core being heavily guarded and off limits to the narc. Trust and laxening of the control will have to be earned. You are now wise to the ways of the narc, so gaslighting, lying, circular arguments that get you nowhere will need to be called out as they occur. Real honest communication will have to be an integral part of every day, week, and month and the relationship will have to be made a high priority. In addition there can be no secrecy, that is a two way street both you and the narc need to be more open about things. Will this ever occur with a narcissist? That's highly unlikely. The narc will put on the act of sincerity, but most likely once again find a way into you. They will almost see the above rules and constraints as a challenge and once they have gained your confidence, they will not be able to fight the urge to find new supply and discard you yet again. So, should you give the narc a second chance? That depends on your situation. You are best off not to give that second chance, but if you feel strong enough to enforce all of the safeguards, maybe. If you aren't married to that person, one episode of actual infidelity is probably enough to say NO. If you are married, especially if you have children then there is more of a need to try to make things work. If a person is physically violent with you all bets are off, NO WAY do you want to place yourself in physical or life threatening danger. That is my opinion. My policy for a girlfriend was always “one strike and you're out” and I made that clear to her and she knew I meant it. Trust? My clearly stated policy was that my trust for them was 100%. They had 100% freedom to do whatever they needed to do or wanted to do without question or concern on my part. Unexplained time away or inability to keep a date on time were never questioned as was phone or computer use. But once there was evidence of a problem with infidelity I would move to find out everything. That was clearly stated to my ex and she knew I was serious. I always believe that a person's infidelity will eventually be brought to my attention without any effort on my part and that proved itself to be true. In conclusion, the best course of action is to get yourself back, become emotionally strong and mentally healthy again and when you are ready find a genuine person to spend the rest of your life with. Freedom from a narcissist is the greatest gift you could give yourself and it shouldn't be that difficult to find someone that will be far superior to the narc, since the average person is not a pathological narcissist, narcopath for short. Thank you for watching. Your comments are always welcomed.

Getting over the “What If's” after Narcissist Discard One of the things that tortures the Narc victim after the sudden discard is the “what if” syndrome. What if I would have said that, what if I would have done that differently, what if I would have noticed sooner that something was wrong, what if I would have been more assertive in trying to resolve issues I knew needed to be addressed in the relationship, what if I would have breached my integrity and done what the narc asked, the list goes on and on. “If only”, then you would still be in the relationship with the narc, you would still be happy (or at least you thought you were happy). This is like being in quicksand, the more you struggle and try to make sense of things, the deeper you sink. So how do you get out of this scenario? What you need to do is focus on other things, once you focus on the other things and answer some questions you won't have any “what if's”, at least for this episode of recurrent PTSD. Here is what to focus on, at least what I have found is helpful. One: Was the Narc lying to you? To one degree or another, YES. Two: Were they ever really honest with you about their feelings, and their plans? No, they were NOT. Three: Did they ever really want to work things out with you and have any resolution to the problems that came up in the relationship? No, they did not. Four: Did they ever even want to deal with the problems in the relationship when you brought them up? No, they did not. Five: Did they ever really love you? Well, you always thought they did, they said they did, but there were so many evidences to the contrary. Six: Were they ever loyal to you? No they were not. There were so many evidences of disloyalty, that you couldn't believe they were loyal and yet the narc turned the tables on you and sometimes questioned your loyalty, which was never in question, by the way. By the narc questioning your loyalty, you automatically assumed they understood the importance of loyalty and they valued loyalty. You never even considered that possibly the narc was just setting up a smoke screen to hide their own disloyalty. Seven: Then you have to think about multiple times where you were just puzzled by the way the narc acted when they should have had sympathy and empathy for you, they should have cared about you, they should have really been concerned about you. What did the narc do in these situations? They were totally cold and calloused in ways you would have never expected them to be in that environment. So, after going through all of the above questions and answering them honestly, you have to wonder if the narc ever really loved you at all. When you start focusing on the above questions with the new found knowledge that you have gained through research on the web, YouTube, books, and learning about other people's experiences , you realize that you were definitely with a narc. Of course, you have to be very sure of that, you don't want to be just accusing them of this, but when you're sure you were with a narc, you're sure they didn't have a lot of the qualities that a partner should have had, then you can start letting yourself off the hook. You can stop with the “what if's”. You tried everything in your power to have meaningful conversations and resolve issues, the narc did everything in their power to NEVER resolve them. You were an honest broker, you made a lifetime commitment to the narc. The narc was just putting on an act, knowing that they were putting on an act and just planning a few steps ahead, so that they could make an exit cleanly, pretending it was all your, the victim's fault. This is what the narc was doing all along. The narc never planned on having a permanent relationship with you, and if they did plan on a lifetime relationship, it would still only last as long as it was advantageous to the narc. They would abandon that commitment with no remorse when another newer or better opportunity came along always with a good excuse for why they had to leave and why they are the victim and you are all to blame. So let's say the discard could have been avoided and you were still in the relationship with the narc. Would you really be better off? Think about it. You would still be under the impression the narc loved you, that they were loyal, that they were honest and mostly truthful, that they were truly committed to you. You would never even know that covert narcissists exist. Yes you would once again think you were happy, but were you really happy in the relationship? Not really. On top of that you now know that the whole foundation of the relationship was based on lies and deception, so that whatever value you placed on the relationship and whatever comfort and happiness you were getting was really only based on an illusion. Think about this. You are now better off. True joy, happiness and hope are slowly coming back into your life. Yes, you are better off. Focus on that. What if you were back with the narc? You would still think you were happy and just needing to work a little bit harder to satisfy the unhappy, dissatisfied narc. Success was always just around the corner as you squeezed yourself harder and harder and yet you never seemed to get any traction. Is that really something you miss? One last point to make: You still think that YOU are the one who lost everything when the relationship suddenly ended, but you really didn't lose anything when the narc left. Ironically, the narc, who thinks they lost nothing, really, actually lost everything. The narc lost true love, they lost someone who cared about them. They lost someone who was committed to them as a human being and dedicated to their personal growth. A person dedicated to the growth of the relationship, and committed to the narc's happiness. That's what they lost. What you thought you lost: love, somebody who cared about you, somebody who would be your life partner, you NEVER had. So just remember that, and be thankful that the “what if's” didn't go a different way, that things are the way they are. If you really do want to do some “what if's”. What if you were still with that person? What if you were still under the illusion that they cared about you? What if you went forward even further with your relationship together and made even deeper commitments. What if? What if you realized all of this even deeper into the relationship? What if the narc was untrue to you when you were even more vulnerableThank you as always for listening. I look forward to your comments. May peace and joy surround you and may you heal more and more with each passing day.