The Ugly Reality of the Narcissist: Why Metaphors are Necessary The Depiction of narcissists as ghouls, beasts, demons, vampires, and creatures, seems like the rantings of bitter people trying to get even. The unbelievable and unimaginable accounts and descriptions of cruelty seem to the outside observer to be nothing more than the over embellished or made up character assassination of the jilted lover or a disobedient child wanting to get back at parents who genuinely loved their child, but the child prefers to see the parents as demons. Those people are fortunate enough to never have had intimate and close contact with a narc, and honestly, for their own sakes I hope they never have a narc in their lives and I totally understand their judgment on narc abuse victims. So why such a harsh depiction and description of the narc? Are the narc abuse victims bitter people trying to get even? Is it all just fueled by the need for vengeance and anger on the narc abuse victim's end,- nothing more that passive aggression? Sure, there is the element of wanting to “set things straight”, no doubt about it, but that is mainly to make people aware of the narcissist and give people as accurate an idea of what they will encounter. Here is the main point: the narcissist is the hunter and the aggressor, they are the ones that seek out the victim and prepare them for their fate. They look just like any other normal person and when in the love bombing or over valuation phase of the relationship, they appear as angelic and perfect and wonderful people to their chosen victim and make no doubt about it, the narc's target is a victim. All of this is totally invisible to the outside world and to the victim, so how do you even begin to try to get “the uninitiated”, otherwise known as the people lucky enough never to have been in a relationship with a narc, to understand the nature of these people. The only reasonable and possible way that I can think of is to use the metaphors, the terrible and ugly metaphors of evil beasts, etc. above. The only way is to describe in detail what they have done to you, without disclosing the narc's identity. If the outside world doesn't want to believe, that is their good pleasure. If the outside world wants to view the narc survivor as bitter and not wanting to get over it, and holding a grudge and seeking vengeance through passive aggression, that is their choice. The outside world has been warned and that is the primary reason for everything that most narc abuse survivors do. As an abuse survivor, you want others to avoid the painful situation you have just gone through, you want to do for others what you wish someone would have done for you. I thought I knew just about everything there was to know about the human race. I was well studied in relationships, psychology, and human nature. If someone would have told me about covert, not overt narcissism 4 years ago, I would have considered it crazy. I would have not been able to understand and I would frankly not believe these people exist and would certainly not be wasting precious time trying to understand these complicated, broken, warped people. Let's pull off the gloves, narcissists are evil, bad people pure and simple. But at least I would have been warned and maybe, even though I wasn't really taking the crazy narc abuse victim 100 percent seriously, after all the victim must be exaggerating since there are two sides to every story. In any disagreement between two people, both partners are equally to blame and both parties have legitimate grievances, don't they? NO, not the case with the narcissist, and I hate to inform you there is very little exaggeration going on with these accounts. So go ahead and judge. I would have. That evil hideous creature used to depict a narc is the easiest way to show you who they are, you have no incentive to do the research and understand these people by thinking about them. A wolf in sheep's clothing graphic is so accurate that no more need be said. A demon, a blood sucking creature, a vampire, the list goes on, all give insight into the narc. They aren't being posted for spite. Describing the narcissist as having a mind that is like a sewer and dwelling in a sewer is so harsh and a very disagreeable thought and sight. In my case, I know of no other way to depict what I observed. Healing for the victim comes when they adequately comprehend the nature of narcissists in general and their narcissist in particular. If you care for the music and understand the power behind the words and can feel the emotions, it might be helpful to listen to the end of this video. A brilliant and insightful lyric by Moonrise titled “The Lights of a distant Bay”. This lyric brought tears to my eyes. It's meaning has deep significance for this time in my life. If you aren't interested, I understand. Have a good day and thank you for watching, your comments are welcomed. Peace be with you.